What’s the number one trait women wish they have more of at work?
Resilience? Focus? Powers of persuasion?
Well, it’s actually none of those, I’ve been a transformational coach running countless workshops with professional women for more than a decade, and the trait they identify most is – confidence.
A recent survey that I ran showed that lack of confidence is the trait that held back nearly half of all the women questioned. It’s not that these women are un-confident. If you came across them at work or in life they would most likely come across as open, assertive and competent.
The confidence I’m talking about is a deeper level of confidence.
The origin of the word CONFIDENCE is from the latin word confidere which means trust or faith.. so self confidence is trust in self. How can you trust yourself if you don’t know yourself?
I have dedicated much of my time over the last ten years to understanding what that kind of confidence looks like – and more important how to nurture and develop it – both in myself, and in other women. What I have come to understand is that it’s a type of confidence that comes from knowing who you are, what you want and why you want it.
The very first step is not, as you might imagine, building someone up. The first step towards greater confidence is drilling down, developing self-knowledge and self-awareness.
That means being able to define what success is to you, knowing what your core values are, and setting out a distinct vision of how you want your future to look.
A rich and clear understanding of who you are is the foundation on which true confidence is built. Without those firm, deep foundations you can only build your confidence so high before it starts to crack and crumble away.
Are you a tower of strength in the workplace? Or could your confidence be on a firmer footing?
What gets in the way of taking that first step ?
- Not kowing where to start?
- The situation is tolerable so you tolerate it?
- Fear of moving outside of your comfort zone
- You don’t want to look at what’s going on just in case you might need to make some changes.
- Busy-ness? You just don’t have time for yourself.
- Basically you are saying your growth, your life and your happiness are not your priority. You know if you were talking to your friend or your daughter you would tell them that’s ridiculous, wouldn’t you?
So if you knew where to look to start your journey, decided enough is enough, stopped tolerating ‘getting by’, decided to step out of your comfort zone and put yourself first, what might be possible?
Might you start to feel that deeper level of confidence and conviction?
I have personally witnessed hundreds of women taking those steps and as a result feeling more fulfilled, energised and making a bigger difference. I’d love to hear your thoughts on the habits and behaviours that you think hold women back that may be linked to confidence.